CHILD PSYCHOLOGY FOR PARENTS.

PRACTICAL PEDIATRIC PSYCHOLOGICAL COUNSELLING FOR PARENTS.
We have to concentrate on 4important points only:
1)children hate parental control.
2)children have interest in socialisation.
3)bad society /bad friendship often turns good into spoiled children.
4)child gives priority to fraternal control than maternal.


PARENTAL CONTROL.
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EVERY CHILD STARTS LEARNING RIGHT FROM BIRTH SOMETHING EVERY HOUR &EVERY DAY
Parents have to provide suitable opportunity,for environmental stimulation for such learning&it is a continuous process,never ending as long as brain functions keep steering
in the normal way.Generally child wants to be independent age 2.They want to eat themselves,though they will do it in a clumsy way. they get used to in due course.
The 2-3 year age group is bestowed with boundless energy&they can be controlled only when their energy level comes down,after a physically tiresome play..When father returns home child will take the privilege of playing with father in an aggressive way.Father is expected to control his emotions.Sizable number of fathers return home fully boozed.Drunken man can not be expected to know how to behave with a child.The result is a gradual demoralisation of child ending up in a child with low I.Q.,OR LOW ACADEMIC PERFORMANCE,or become a school dropout.Beating such children will not only worsen the situation,but may lead to a psychological breakdown situation There after it is not retrievable most often&that is the end.
so prophylaxis is better than cure.

SOCIALISATION;
Animals are social&man is a social animal.From early child hood he wants to play with other children.or pet animals.This is not practicable in U.S.A..(Playing with pet animals is contraindicated)The culture in India differs in this respect with U.S.A


children US see other children only in parties once a month.otherwise there imprisoned inside
4 walls.only person to see is mother.few children are privileged to go to daycare centers.
JAMBOREE where they see other children&many play equipments..In major hospitals,specially teaching institutions,there is a department known as occupation therapy..meant for mentally &physically retarded children.Even normal children can be exposed to this department&can be found beneficial in sharpening the mental make up of children without any doubts

BAD FRIENDSHIP

Tell me your friend,I will tell your character,is an old proverb.Child grownup child,early adolesents dont know how to select good friends.It is the duty of parents to advise them about their friends&how to choose good from the bad.Children naturally make friendship with high scoring children only if they themselves are high scorers.this HAS TO BE CONFIRMED BY PARENTS,NOW &THEN

parents SHOULD ORGANISE PARTIES ONCE IN A WAY FOR THE CHILD'S SAKE.This provides an opportunity

to study the character of the child's "friends circle".
This should be maintained till child enters college ADOLESCENT AGE IS ONE OF THE MOST DIFFICULT PART OF A CHILD'S DEVELOPMENTAL STAGE.&IS OFTEN A CHALLENGING TASK.

Boy or girl,they are very defiant often &parents have to make right decision to have a good command &control over the child.If not they should seek the help of school teacher or headmaster, or a senior educated relative or even police as the last measure.If child is brought

up well &moulded properly from early childhood.all these things may not be necessary


CHILD IS MORE OBEDIENT TO FATHER THAN MOTHER
In the absence of father ,he very obedient to mother.When father returns home at 6 pm,he is relatively less obedient to mother.This should be considered as a sign of intelligence.&no abuse or threat to be used,towards the child.Obedience is one the most important mental faculty
required to be developed gradually.As age advances,different technique to be used to inculcate discipline.Abusing &beating should never be resorted to ,at any age,as it would only further deteriorate there situation.Parents should approach intellectually to control stubbornness.If they do not know let them go to a pediatric psychologist.Small threatening measures like "TIME OUT" may be practiced whenever they do a wrong thing,&to make them understand,what is right.Intelligence level keeps on increasing every year.&by about age 5 they should obey 100%IF CONTRARY IS FOUND,CONSULT PSYCHOLOGIST.Children like parents always to be smiling &playful towards them(irrespective of their own mental conflicts This may be difficult though.on such occasions parents require PATIENCE.Keep the children always in playful activity,or some kind of useful,intellectual occupation,so that children become less mischievous,or less boisterous.All these are easy to preach but difficult to practice.