Friday, April 29, 2016

EFFECTIVE PARENTING

INTRODUCTION : MANY OF US THINK THE CHILD WILL GROW ON ITS OWN.THE INTELLECTUAL GROWTH DEPENDS ON VARIOUS FACTORS SUCH AS. 1. PARENTAL GENES
2. ENVIRONMENTAL STIMULATION ( PLEASE SEE WOLF RAMAN STORY IN SOME OTHER PAGE CONNECTED WITH INTELLIGENCE.
3. NUTRITIOUS DIET .
4. PATERNAL\ MATERNAL INFLUENZ& TEACHINGS.
5. SCHOOL TEACHERS GUIDE LINES.
6. CHILDRENS OWN INTEREST IN STUDY,DRAWING EXTRA CURRICULAR ACTIVITIES.
7. NORMAL BLOOD THYROID HORMONE AND MANY MORE.

FLLOWING IS THE LIST OF POINTS PARENTS TO REMEMBER TO BRING UP THE CHILDREN INTHE RIGHTY WAY THERE BY, ALL PARENTS BECOME GOOD,BUTTER,AND BEST PARENTS.
1. AFFCETIONATE BEHAVIOUR ( KISS THE CHILD ON RETURN FROM OFFICE)
2. MORE AFFCETIONATE -- HUG THE CHILD ATLEAST ONCE ON RETURN FROM OFFICE.
3. STILL MORE AFFCETIONATE - GIVE THE CHILD WHAT THE LIKES MAST. SWEETS\FRUTIS\TOYS.ATLEAST ONCE A WEEK.
4. PLAY IN THE CHILD (HIDEN SEEK ATLEAST ONCE A WEEK.
5. TAKE HIM TO RESTAURANT ONCE A WEEK.
6. BUY HIM ICE CREAM\MILK SHAKE ATLEAST ONCE A WEEK.
7. KEEP PAPER& COLAR PENCIL READY INTHE CAR,SO HE CAN START DRAWING \ COLOURING WHEN CAR STOPS IN A PEACE.
8. MAKE A SWING IN THE HOUSE,SO YOU CAN SWING HIM ACCATIONALLY.
9)TELL HIM A STORY ONCE A WEEK (YOU HAVE TO LEARN FROM THE NET, SPECIALLY ANIMAL RELATED).
10) YOU CAN GIVE A SMALL MENTAL MATHAMATICS &IF HE IS RIGHT REWARD HIM WITH A TOKEN-IF HE COLLECTS 10 TOKENS BUY HIM A NEW SHOES.
11)FROM TODDLER TO HIGHER AGE,GIVE HIM SENSE OF SECURITY ,BY VARIOUS MEANS-GIVE REAL LIFE EXAMPLES
12)AS CHILD GROWS UP HE SHOULD KNOW BOTH FATHER &MOTHER WILL COME TO HIS RESCUE AT TIMES OF CRISIS.
MUST TELL CHILDREN A MORAL STORY RELATED TO WORLD SITUATION &HOW TO HANDLE DIFFICULT SITUATION
OWN EG-HOW A DOG SELLER CHEATED ELITE SOCEITY.
13)IMPRESS UPON YOUR CHILD THAT IF SOME BODY ASKS FOR MONEY IT IS ONLY TO CHEAT &NOT FOR REAL NEED
a)physiolgy professor,relative 3 lacs rupees cheating.
14)female children to avoid gold jewellary in the absence of security
15)teach children about sex abuse--male/female
16)THERE IS NO BETTER GOD THAN MOTHER,THERE IS NO BETTER MAGIC FORMULA THAN FATHER'S WORDS
17)BEATING CHILD AT ANY AGE IS NOT GOOD.BUT THREATENINIG SHOULD BE DONE
18)INCULCATE DESCIPLINE FROM CHILDHOOD(THAT WHICH CAN NOT BE BENT AT AGE 5 CANNOT BE BENT EVEN AT AGE 50
19)LE HA HAVE FT OVERPORTION IN THE SYLLABUS SHOULD BE TAUGHT BY PARENTS.THAT WILL BE EVIDENT ONLY ON SCRUTINY.
20)PARENTS BEHAVIUR SHOULD BE FRIENDLY.THEN ONLY THEY WILL HAVE CONFIDENCE.ENTS
21)PARENTS MUST SUPERVISE CHILDREN WHETHER THEY HAVE CHSEN GOOD FRIENDS.THERE ARE GIRLS WHO ENTER INTO UNHEALTHY PRACTCES.THERE ARE BOYS WHO USE ALCOHOL,DRUGS ETC ETC
22)STRAIGHTFORWARDNESS TO BE TAUGHT FROM CHILD HOOD
23)PATRIOTISM SHOULD BE TAUGHT REPEATEDLYT
24)story of martyers who gave their lives tofree motherland frequently.ask them to tell the story repeatedly at home &if necessary in the school.stories of king veerapandia kattabomman VOC RANI JANSI BAI,JALIANWALABAG MASACRE GENERAL DIER, VANJINATHAN WHO SHOT COLLECTOR,KING HARICHANDRAS STORY.
25)TAKE PHOTOS IN AFFECTIONATE POSES SO THAT IT WILL SPEACK STORRIES AFTER 30 YEARS!
26)TEACH HIM WHAT IS GOOD/BAD TOUCH AT AGE 3--7 YEARS. LIFTING AT AGE 3--7
27)TEACH HIM ABOUT ILL EFFECTS OF SMOKING, DRINKING AT AGE 16--18.
28)TEACH HIM ABOUT KIDNAPPING/CHILD AT AGE 3--7
29)TEACH HIM ABOUT DRUG ADDICTION & ITS ILL EFFECTS.IMPRESS THAT LIFE WILL BE LOST FOR EVER.THIS IS DONE AROUND 17--20 YEARS
30)TEACH HIM ABOUT WHAT IS PROSTITUTION TO MALE/FEMALE CHILDREN, &HOW IT IS BEING DONE IN SOCIETY &WHAT ARE THE DELETERIOUS EFFECTS SPECIALLY AIDS--THE KILLER DISEASE,ATAGE 16--20.METHOD OF TEACHING DIFFERS FROM BOYS &GIRLS.
31)THIRUKURAL MUST BE LEARNT FROM AGE 10--18&EVEN LATTER.ARATHUPAL &PORUTPAL ONLY.LEAVS AS PER AE KAMATHUPAL TO HIS INTREST AFTER 25.NOTHING SHOULD BE HIDDEN FRM CHILDREN.ALL EXPLANATION DIFFERS ASPER AGE FOR A SAME QUESTION.THIS WILL MAKE HIM A MORALLY STRONG MAN.EVEN THE HIGH COURT OF MADRAS GAVE DIRECTION TO EDUCATION DEPARTMENT THAT THIRUKKURAL MUST BE ADDED IN THE SYLLABUS.BOT THE EDUCATION DEPARTMENT REFUSED ON THE PLEA THAT THERE WILL BE OVERLOADING OF SYLLABUS!!!!
will this country progress????

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16)THERE IS NO BETTER TEMPLE THAN MOTHER,THERE IS NO BETTER MAGIC FORMULA THAN FATHER'S WORDS.
(TELL CHEMISTRY TEACHERS STORY, SO CHILD WILL DEVELOPE SENSE OF CONFIDENCE &MORE AFFECTION TOWARDS PARENTS
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