Tuesday, June 21, 2016

GENETIC ROOTS OF DR.PSELVARAJ(MYSELF)


KNOWN FIRST GENERATION.
mr.vedichettiar.F.A.(born around 1870),served as proof reader THE HINDU-1920-1925.married angamuthammal&yielded 3 sons &daughters
.one of the daughter was music teacher in govt.school.thir eldest son was natanasababathy guptha.B.A.(HONS) ENG.LIT.,BL.
(DISTRICT MAGISTRATE)1926
SECOND GENERATION.
Next son -Parthasarathy Guptha.FA was sub register of co-operative society. An exponent in English language.one who swallowed wren and martin grammar wife name was Vedavalliammal excellent cook a good native doctor she bore nine children first Balaraj matriculate. forest officer.2. George died in infancy. 3. Sarojini doctor. educated me up to MBBBS. 4 5 6 all three boys died in infancy. 7.Darling MA Med head mistress govt.school retired. 8.Dr.p.Selvaraj MD,DCH,FRSH London myself)
THIRD GENERATION
Selvaraj married premalatha excellent cook lovers of arts in any farm good in colam drawing computer literature as good mannerism and dress scene we have three children.
FOURTH GENERATION
1.Senthil selvaraj, Cardio Vascular Sonologist USA. Married bhuvaneshwari jeganathan graduate nurse singapore.there first daughters name is Srilatha .
2.Raj kumar Selvaraj,BE MS(Bits pilani)software architect California US. He married priyadarshini BHSC now teacheer in US. They are gifted with one son Arjun and daughter Sahana. all are US citizens.
3. Abirami selvaraj,BSC (CSE)MCA,MS(CSE)USA. Also citizens of US.they have one son Aran musically talented and two daughters twins radha and lalitha.

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Thursday, May 5, 2016

EFFECTIVE PARENTING--2

29)THERE IS CONSIDERABLE CHANGE OF CHARECTER &BEHAVIOUR AT AGE 15-18 IN GIRLS &16-20 IN BOYS THIS IS DUE TO PLAY OF HORMONES.OESTROGEN IS FEMALE HORMONE &TESTOSTERONE IS MALE HORMONE,MEANT FOR SEXUAL REPRODUCTION TO CONTINUE THE PRIGENY FOR NEXT GENERATION.ALL SEX RELATED BEHAVIOUR &MISBEHAVIOUR ARE RELATED TO HORMONAL PLAY.THIS IS THE AGE WHEN ADAM & EVE,WANT TO KNOW /EXPERIENCE,THE TASTE OF APPLE.IF THERE IS GOOD PARENTAL CONTROLE,CHILDREN DONT GET INTO THIS COMLICATED SEX NET.ONCE THEY GET INTO THE NET MAJORITY OF THEM ARE LIKE FISHES INSDE THE NET &THEIR FATE MAY CHANGE CONSIDERABLY ABNORMAL.FALLING IN LOVE ELOPING WITH OPPOSITE SEX ARE COMMON.SO IT IS IMPERATIVE THAT CHILDREN ARE TAUGHT APPROPRIATELY AT THIS AGE BY PARENTS,/COUNCILLORS/DOCTORS/PSYCHOLOGISTS.THERE IS NOTHING THAT ADOLESCENTS SHOULD NOT KNOW.
30)THERE ARE PLENTY OF RELIGION ORIENTED MORAL STORIES IN ALL RELIGIONS.THEY ARE AVAILABLE AS BOOKS, CDS.CHILDREN SHOULD BE EXPOSED TO ALLSUCH STORIES SO THAT THEY BECOME A MORALLY STRONG INDIVIDUALS,&THEY CAN FACE THE SOCIETY WITH GREAT CONFIDENCE

31)BEATING SCOLDING CHILDREN WITH VULGAR WORDS,CAN NOT YIED GOOD RESULTS.THIS GENERATION CHILDREN ARE TOTALLY DIFFERENT,&UNLESS THEY ARE HANDLED WITH GREAT CARE,THEY WILL MISBEHAVE WITH PARENTS,ENDING UP WITH TOTAL FAMILY DISHARMONY.IF PARENTS ARE UNABLE TO CONTROLE CHILDREN,THERE ARE MANY SENIOR CITIZENS DOCTORS PSYCHOLOGISTS COUNCILLORS,WHO CAN FIND SOLUTION TO ALL CHILDRENS PROBLEMS
32)PARENTS SHOULD NOT THINK THAT THEY ARE THE ULTIMATE JUDGES FOR ALL PROBLEMS
33)SHOWING TOO MUCH LOVE &AFFECTION IS NOT GOOD THEY SHOULD ALLWAYS HAVE SENSE OF FEAR TOWARDS PARENTS BUT THEY SHOULD BE GIVEN ENOUGH FREEDOM TO EXPRESS THEIR MIND THEY SHOULD CONSIDER PARENTS AS THEIR BEST &FIRST FRIEND.TO THAT EXTANT PARENTS SHOULD CULTIVATE LOVE &AFFECTION DEVELOPEMENT,LIKE A SMALL PLANT GROWING GRADUALLY
PARENTS CAN EVEN HAVE A STICK ,NOT TO STRICK BUT TO TERRORISE,IN CASE OF MISBEVIOUR UNCONTROLLABLE
IF OBEDIENCE &DDESCIPLINE ARE ABSCENT IN A CHILD THAT CHILD CAN NOT BE BROUGHT UP AS A NORMAL CHILD.BUT SOLUTIONS ARE AVAILABLE WITH PSYCHIATRISTS.

FOR ANY CLARIFICATION CONTACT;--98 41 35 43 35.

Friday, April 29, 2016

EFFECTIVE PARENTING

INTRODUCTION : MANY OF US THINK THE CHILD WILL GROW ON ITS OWN.THE INTELLECTUAL GROWTH DEPENDS ON VARIOUS FACTORS SUCH AS. 1. PARENTAL GENES
2. ENVIRONMENTAL STIMULATION ( PLEASE SEE WOLF RAMAN STORY IN SOME OTHER PAGE CONNECTED WITH INTELLIGENCE.
3. NUTRITIOUS DIET .
4. PATERNAL\ MATERNAL INFLUENZ& TEACHINGS.
5. SCHOOL TEACHERS GUIDE LINES.
6. CHILDRENS OWN INTEREST IN STUDY,DRAWING EXTRA CURRICULAR ACTIVITIES.
7. NORMAL BLOOD THYROID HORMONE AND MANY MORE.

FLLOWING IS THE LIST OF POINTS PARENTS TO REMEMBER TO BRING UP THE CHILDREN INTHE RIGHTY WAY THERE BY, ALL PARENTS BECOME GOOD,BUTTER,AND BEST PARENTS.
1. AFFCETIONATE BEHAVIOUR ( KISS THE CHILD ON RETURN FROM OFFICE)
2. MORE AFFCETIONATE -- HUG THE CHILD ATLEAST ONCE ON RETURN FROM OFFICE.
3. STILL MORE AFFCETIONATE - GIVE THE CHILD WHAT THE LIKES MAST. SWEETS\FRUTIS\TOYS.ATLEAST ONCE A WEEK.
4. PLAY IN THE CHILD (HIDEN SEEK ATLEAST ONCE A WEEK.
5. TAKE HIM TO RESTAURANT ONCE A WEEK.
6. BUY HIM ICE CREAM\MILK SHAKE ATLEAST ONCE A WEEK.
7. KEEP PAPER& COLAR PENCIL READY INTHE CAR,SO HE CAN START DRAWING \ COLOURING WHEN CAR STOPS IN A PEACE.
8. MAKE A SWING IN THE HOUSE,SO YOU CAN SWING HIM ACCATIONALLY.
9)TELL HIM A STORY ONCE A WEEK (YOU HAVE TO LEARN FROM THE NET, SPECIALLY ANIMAL RELATED).
10) YOU CAN GIVE A SMALL MENTAL MATHAMATICS &IF HE IS RIGHT REWARD HIM WITH A TOKEN-IF HE COLLECTS 10 TOKENS BUY HIM A NEW SHOES.
11)FROM TODDLER TO HIGHER AGE,GIVE HIM SENSE OF SECURITY ,BY VARIOUS MEANS-GIVE REAL LIFE EXAMPLES
12)AS CHILD GROWS UP HE SHOULD KNOW BOTH FATHER &MOTHER WILL COME TO HIS RESCUE AT TIMES OF CRISIS.
MUST TELL CHILDREN A MORAL STORY RELATED TO WORLD SITUATION &HOW TO HANDLE DIFFICULT SITUATION
OWN EG-HOW A DOG SELLER CHEATED ELITE SOCEITY.
13)IMPRESS UPON YOUR CHILD THAT IF SOME BODY ASKS FOR MONEY IT IS ONLY TO CHEAT &NOT FOR REAL NEED
a)physiolgy professor,relative 3 lacs rupees cheating.
14)female children to avoid gold jewellary in the absence of security
15)teach children about sex abuse--male/female
16)THERE IS NO BETTER GOD THAN MOTHER,THERE IS NO BETTER MAGIC FORMULA THAN FATHER'S WORDS
17)BEATING CHILD AT ANY AGE IS NOT GOOD.BUT THREATENINIG SHOULD BE DONE
18)INCULCATE DESCIPLINE FROM CHILDHOOD(THAT WHICH CAN NOT BE BENT AT AGE 5 CANNOT BE BENT EVEN AT AGE 50
19)LE HA HAVE FT OVERPORTION IN THE SYLLABUS SHOULD BE TAUGHT BY PARENTS.THAT WILL BE EVIDENT ONLY ON SCRUTINY.
20)PARENTS BEHAVIUR SHOULD BE FRIENDLY.THEN ONLY THEY WILL HAVE CONFIDENCE.ENTS
21)PARENTS MUST SUPERVISE CHILDREN WHETHER THEY HAVE CHSEN GOOD FRIENDS.THERE ARE GIRLS WHO ENTER INTO UNHEALTHY PRACTCES.THERE ARE BOYS WHO USE ALCOHOL,DRUGS ETC ETC
22)STRAIGHTFORWARDNESS TO BE TAUGHT FROM CHILD HOOD
23)PATRIOTISM SHOULD BE TAUGHT REPEATEDLYT
24)story of martyers who gave their lives tofree motherland frequently.ask them to tell the story repeatedly at home &if necessary in the school.stories of king veerapandia kattabomman VOC RANI JANSI BAI,JALIANWALABAG MASACRE GENERAL DIER, VANJINATHAN WHO SHOT COLLECTOR,KING HARICHANDRAS STORY.
25)TAKE PHOTOS IN AFFECTIONATE POSES SO THAT IT WILL SPEACK STORRIES AFTER 30 YEARS!
26)TEACH HIM WHAT IS GOOD/BAD TOUCH AT AGE 3--7 YEARS. LIFTING AT AGE 3--7
27)TEACH HIM ABOUT ILL EFFECTS OF SMOKING, DRINKING AT AGE 16--18.
28)TEACH HIM ABOUT KIDNAPPING/CHILD AT AGE 3--7
29)TEACH HIM ABOUT DRUG ADDICTION & ITS ILL EFFECTS.IMPRESS THAT LIFE WILL BE LOST FOR EVER.THIS IS DONE AROUND 17--20 YEARS
30)TEACH HIM ABOUT WHAT IS PROSTITUTION TO MALE/FEMALE CHILDREN, &HOW IT IS BEING DONE IN SOCIETY &WHAT ARE THE DELETERIOUS EFFECTS SPECIALLY AIDS--THE KILLER DISEASE,ATAGE 16--20.METHOD OF TEACHING DIFFERS FROM BOYS &GIRLS.
31)THIRUKURAL MUST BE LEARNT FROM AGE 10--18&EVEN LATTER.ARATHUPAL &PORUTPAL ONLY.LEAVS AS PER AE KAMATHUPAL TO HIS INTREST AFTER 25.NOTHING SHOULD BE HIDDEN FRM CHILDREN.ALL EXPLANATION DIFFERS ASPER AGE FOR A SAME QUESTION.THIS WILL MAKE HIM A MORALLY STRONG MAN.EVEN THE HIGH COURT OF MADRAS GAVE DIRECTION TO EDUCATION DEPARTMENT THAT THIRUKKURAL MUST BE ADDED IN THE SYLLABUS.BOT THE EDUCATION DEPARTMENT REFUSED ON THE PLEA THAT THERE WILL BE OVERLOADING OF SYLLABUS!!!!
will this country progress????

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16)THERE IS NO BETTER TEMPLE THAN MOTHER,THERE IS NO BETTER MAGIC FORMULA THAN FATHER'S WORDS.
(TELL CHEMISTRY TEACHERS STORY, SO CHILD WILL DEVELOPE SENSE OF CONFIDENCE &MORE AFFECTION TOWARDS PARENTS
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Friday, February 26, 2016

child hood accidents

introduction;There are many things a new mum should know even before she becomes a mother.Briefly few conditions are enumererated for the sake of knowledge.1.about 15-20 medical conditions present at birth congenitally.mildest is nasolacrimal duct obstruction causing purulent(pus) dischrge from eyes,to congenital surgical heart diseaes at birth
2.congenital metabolic disturbances.3.congenitalchromosomal disorders.4.psychological developemental disorders
eg.Autism spectrum disorders.5.congenital surgical conditions--about 10 disorders.Besides there is a group called
childhood accidents.Brief details are as under:--1.aspiration milk/food/medicine/water.This is dangerous causing instantaneous death.so prevention is only treatment.2.child kidnaping, fromhospitals/home/train/bus.3)sibling playing aroundh,causing suffocation with plastic bags 4.seekai kai use to scalp can cause asthma to all members of the family including child(powerful respiratory allergen)5 hot food like sambar rasam kept on the floorwhere there are toddlers running around 6.chilly powderkept on the ground.7.insect bite--scorpion /snake/ bees.---forscorpion sting best treattment possible only in i c h egmore or adoctor trained fromich.treatmentshould start within 4-6 hrs
for snake only answer is antisnake venom seerum.going to unqualified doctor is certain death.8rat bite.9.dog bite.
anti-rabies vaccine alone is not enough--rabies immunoglobulin is a must, but many dont take it because of prohibitive cost.cat bite also treated like dog bite.10. grown up children--motorcycle silencer burn for pillion rider
11.road accidends. 12. waering gold ornaments to children 13.SIDS 14. keeping adult medicines in the vicinity of children(drug for bp, sugar antidepressants)15.alertness during party/marriage/congregation/visiting marina beach /
railway station/big Malls9(child will insist to leave its hands free.if you do it you will be in trouble
16.alertness while going to temple.17.water storage inthe back yard should be kept covered18.18.empty plastic bags should not be available in the hands of children who wouldcover their head causin suffocation 19foreign body in nose throat fish bone.--dont try to take.--go to a doctor.20)windows with mosquitonet--applicable to u s a --child may fall down through window(many sad stories known to auther.21.beware of automatic room locks.22.fire accidents--candles ,kerosene oil chymneys 23.live electric wires in the room,or near water source,causing electricution.
Any clarification call Dr pselvaraj-98 41 35 43 35.